People Pleasing Is Not God’s Will For Your Life

Have you ever struggled with people pleasing to the point that you are literally drained? This post will help you identify if you are currently a people pleaser how to break free from that.

Most of my life I tried to be what someone else has wanted me to be. I tried to fit a mold that was created for me by someone else. Then I came across one scripture that challenged my people pleasing ways. Being who God wants you to be and doing what He wants you to do will cause you to stop people pleasing.

As you continue reading you will see that God’s will is for you to find your identity in Christ. God does not want you stressed, drained, and trying to please everyone and ignore your own needs.

I pray that this post creates a hunger in you to be bold in who you are and be attentive to your own needs. As you come out of people pleasing some won’t like it, but go forth anyways!

This post is all about how to stop people pleasing.

Your Identity Is In Christ

Who Are People Pleasers

To begin with, a people pleaser is one who is set on meeting the needs of another person(s). Often times a people pleaser is afraid of disappointing another person. Sometimes, needing to please others has a high cost of compromising your own morals for the sake of someone else’s happiness. Usually, you will see them going out of their way to make sure others have peace while they themselves have no peace. I’m not referring to individuals who are naturally kind and helpful. However, people pleasers usually have no healthy boundaries set to make sure they aren’t being taken advantage of.

What Does The Bible Say About People Pleasing

There are indeed many scriptures that make mention of people pleasing. Right now let’s shift our focus to these particular three scriptures. First, is Galatians 1:10. Paul said “Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.” It’s abundantly clear that God does not want us aiming to please people. Pleasing people all of time leads to disobedience. Pleasing people and pleasing God will always be a battle because God alone wants all the worship. When your focus is to meet all of an individual needs you then become their god. It should be noted that God is a jealous God. He does not like things or people taking His place. Becoming god to someone is an impossible task. Unlike God, we get weary and impatient.

The second and last verses we will focus in on is Proverbs 29:25 and Isaiah 2:22. Proverbs 29:25 says, “fearing people is a dangerous trap, but trusting the Lord means safety. Isaiah 2:22 says, “Don’t put your trust in mere humans. They are as frail as breath. What good are they?” When you choose to put more trust in people than you do God you set yourself up for failure. People will let you down because they are imperfect, fickle, and unpredictable at times. So because that’s known traits due to our sin nature God wants us to put all of our trust in Him. God does not want you hurting, weighed down, and burdened. People pleasing requires you to trust that when you submit to whatever extreme need people have you will give them satisfaction.

Examples Of People Pleasing

1. Being afraid to say no
2. Feeling depressed because you couldn’t fulfill another person’s need
3. Doing for others when you are running on empty
4. Not knowing how to say no so you do what you don’t want to do
5. Being fearful of the outcome of not doing something to meet the need so you do it anyway even if you don’t want to
6. You feel accepted when you meet the needs of others even if you are not being true to yourself
7. Needing to apologize to keep a false sense of peace even though you aren’t in the wrong
8. You compromise your moral standards to please others
9. You are quick to agree with others because you don’t want to be disliked

Tips For Overcoming People Pleasing

Setting healthy boundaries is key to not allowing the people pleasing to continue. Healthy boundaries looks like you saying no and not forcing yourself to give an explanation. If you understand why you shouldn’t do something it will help you to be firm in your answer of no. Work on trusting God. Getting to know Jesus more intimately will cause you to become so in love with Him that you’ll want to just please Him. Sitting with Holy Spirit and asking the question what is the root cause of me people pleasing ways is another way. Be receptive to what Holy Spirit tells you. Those instructions will help you combat people pleasing. If all else fails you may need deliverance.

Sometimes there are demonic spirits that causes a person to do what they don’t want to do. Needing deliverance does not make you weird or an outcast. If you need deliverance that does not there is little hope for you. Needing deliverance does not make a person possessed by the devil, but more so oppressed. When you don’t have the control to change being a people pleaser or anything else that controls you then it’s time to figure out your next course of action. In that case it may be deliverance. I highly recommend Holly Wright’s ministry. I would never recommend anything or anyone to you I didn’t agree with or haven’t used myself. Her ministry For The Brokenhearted Ministry is powerful, liberating, dynamic, and life changing. She follows Jesus and is doctrinally sound.

This post was all about how to put an end to people pleasing.